Mom life is a hard life. But it’s also beautiful,
Sometimes we cannot see all of the beauty of motherhood because we are blinded by the junk—the junk that society keeps hurtling at us. I find myself drowning in a sea of mounting expectations that I can never feasibly attain. While I trudge through all of the ups and downs of motherhood, lies haunt me. “You are only a good mom if . . .” I am fed up with this pressure. As we lend our ears to the junk—those ifs—we fall prey to doubt, discouragement, and even depression. Now add the title of Christian to your mom status and the pressure becomes unbearable! I am a mom. I am a Christian. The two combined should be freeing. After all, I have the God of the known universe by my side. He is my friend, my confidant, my love, and my hope. So why do I, along with so many other Christian moms, feel as though I am in bondage? The answer is simple. The problem is ME.
I have listened to the junk and taken it to heart. I have labeled myself as insufficient. I have allowed the world to define me and suck the joy out of my life. I have forgotten who I am in Christ and what He requires of me. Are you like me? Have you forgotten what your purpose as a Christian mom is? Let me remind you.
Proverbs 31:28 ESV
“Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her.”
What your neighbor thinks of you and your parenting doesn’t matter. What your friend thinks doesn’t matter. What the mom on social media thinks doesn’t matter. What your pastor, Sunday school teacher, or therapist think really doesn’t matter. You are not here to please all of them. You were created for your family . . . no one else’s. You are here to cherish your children—to love, teach, and guide them.
It’s time to toss out the junk, and replace it with the joy you are meant to thrive in. Set boundaries around your home that will keep the negative thinking and the ridiculous, unrealistic expectations out! You are the keeper of your home and your children. And you have a perfect parent by your side, your heavenly Father. As you seek to follow Proverbs 31:28 and walk closely beside the Father, the pressure will begin to ease.
Matthew 11:28 & 30 ESV
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
His way is easy. His burden is light. Christian motherhood should be no different. You can be joyful. You can laugh out loud. You can be both a mom and a Christian without the junk.
You are not a prisoner to this world’s demands. You are a Christian mom. And a darn good one at that.